Suzy, you are entirely best! Dangling to an ex or multiple types can seriously harm your overall relationship and I also learn this from knowledge. My personal date keeps in contact but was also texting their ex and helping them with various things behind my again. It moved in terms of gifts being passed out at the holidays are to his household from their ex inside side of me personally (while I found myself informed to not bring things). It could tarnish a relationship since it have my own. I have been told that their last commitment had been damaged by him contacting that same ex. Checking at some point to opportunity could possibly be ok but exactly why is that even necessary really if it’s causing turmoil? If for example the latest spouse is ok with the communications after that great in case maybe not, you should promote your present mate the adore and regard they have earned. If you fail to provide that next remain single.
Besides get in touch with definitely preserved so that the well-being of children (assuming there are most,) In my opinion its very disrespectful to a present partner to be mentally enmeshed with an ex-lover (even if you reclassify the ex-lover as ‘just a friend.’)